"Get over it!" say the gurus of psychobabble
and easy-peasy religionairres.
But it wasn't until I understood their motives
that I truly understood their advice.
Most of us forgive not out of altruism.
Most of us forgive out of a desire to reclaim our lives.
A desire to be no longer trapped by our self-pitying anger,
our self-decaying bitter resentments and boiling hatreds.
In short, we do not forgive
for what it gives the other person,
but for what it gives back to us.
A very selfish reason, indeed.
Those who give the forgive and forget advice,
and the get-over-it boot strap attitude
are motivated by selfish concern more than
their love of others.